A caller, James, recently lamented about his father who, following a stroke, still insists he should drive.
“He just got home from the hospital. He can barely walk. He’s using a walker,” James shared. Furthermore, he added, “He immediately states, I’m going to get in the car “…I’m going to do this, and I’m going to do that’
An exasperated James asked, “How do you say No?” “You can’t hardly even walk. There’s is no way in the world that you should be driving! I’d be scared to death to have you coming in the other direction towards me! How do you approach that?”
A great resource for this issue is Keeping Us Safe . Founded by retired Ohio State Trooper, Matt Gurwell, Keeping Us Safe is an organization that provides practical, real-life solutions to older drivers and their families. Their programs are designed to save lives while simultaneously helping to ease the burden of the family as they find themselves faced with this very challenging issue.
Reducing the Times We Say “NO”
This is why do we do the show. Caregivers often find themselves arguing sense with those who can’t or won’t be sensible. The goal is for caregivers to remove themselves from as much drama as possible. We do this by enlisting the help of professionals or those who bring an expertise to the situation. While it’s impossible to eliminate our being the one saying, “No,” we can reduce the number of times WE have to say it to our loved ones.
About Peter Rosenberger
A thirty-year caregiver for his wife, Gracie, who lives with severe disabilities, Peter Rosenberger understands the journey of a caregiver as few do. His experience led to him to author four books including Hope for the Caregiver, and 7 Caregiver Landmines and How You Can Avoid Them.
Peter recently earned a 2nd Dan (degree) black-belt in Hapkido. Furthermore, Peter is also an accomplished pianist. He recently release his new CD, Songs for the Caregiver.
Peter and Gracie live in Nashville, TN, where he also serves and the president and co-founder of Standing With Hope.