Alone, Adrift, Lost—the frightening world of a caregiver.

In  a  recent  article  in  the Washington Post, the reporter discussed a British survey of retired individuals and the impact of social engagement or isolation on their lifespan.

But people who were members of social groups — which could be a sports club, religious organization, trade union or any other kind of leisure or professional group — had a lower risk of death in the first six years of retirement. Those who belonged to two groups before retirement and continued their activity in these groups had a 2 percent risk of death in the first six years. Washington Post 2-16-2016

This study affirms the positive impact of social connectivity on human lifespan.  Further,more, it reflects on the quality of life. Isolation is one of the most crippling long- term issues facing caregivers. In that isolation, caregivers often fall victim to poor thinking, poor judgment, and poor behavior.

Pushing back against the isolation of caregiving is paramount for a caregiver. But where do you start? When dealing with a failure for caregivers to seek medical care, we discussed the critically important first step of seeing a physician.  That’s as good a place to start as any. A medical professional treating us opens the door to additional conversations such as the need for support groups and counseling.

Going further, we as caregivers need positive interaction. We fail to help ourselves if , when pushing back against isolation, we choose to hang around unhealthy individuals who bring us down emotionally or morally.

Hope for the CaregiverIsolation often occurs due to logistics. Sometimes, it is not possible or practical for the caregiver to transport the loved one outside the home. Other times, caregivers, embarrassed about the condition of their loved ones, or wishing to protect their dignity, remove themselves from the public eye.

There are many reasons for the isolation that caregivers feel, but the results are universally negative. Without positive human connections, everybody suffers.

That’s why it’s important for caregivers to remain engaged in church, community, and other social networks. And, since caregivers can often feel lonely in a crowded room, it’s important not only to attend but also to engage. — From HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER  

©2014 Peter W. Rosenberger

Small Steps

We may have to start slow, and not pin all our hopes on one individual, one phone call, or one encounter.  Isolation often makes our hearts feel parched, like struggling through a hot desert with no water.  In addition, we can easily be tempted to “guzzle” human contact. Any expert will tell you that when dehydrated, we need to sip water slowly in order to give our bodies a chance to hydrate properly.

Loneliness was the first thing that God’s eye named “not good.”— John Milton

The same thing applies to interaction. Let’s don’t make people drink from the fire hose and hear every gruesome detail of our journey as a caregiver. Speaking slowly, deliberately, and calmly will ease us into a healthy engagement with others. Also, we can listen to others, as well.

Avoiding the caregiver landmine of isolation requires a deliberate action on our part to reach out to others. Here are three steps to take  today.

  1. Think of three people who you can trust. Pick up the phone, and call them (one at a time …don’t conference call! LOL). A heavy conversation isn’t necessary—just “sip” the friendship
  2. Make an appointment for a psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker, or licensed mental health counselor. It is critically important to involve a professional mental health expert in your journey.
  3. Find a support group in your area. Maybe your doctor, pastor, or counselor can recommend one, or simply look one up online. Virtually every disease or impairment has a support group attached to it.  If nothing is in your area, try going outside the box a bit and attending a local Al-Anon twelve-step group. You may not be able to go as much as you would like, but you can go as much as you can.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 

Peter SpeakingAbout Peter Rosenberger

A thirty-year caregiver for his wife, Gracie, who lives with severe disabilities, Peter Rosenberger understands the journey of a caregiver as few do.  His experience led to him to author four books including Hope for the Caregiver, and 7 Caregiver Landmines and How You Can Avoid Them.  

Peter Rosenberger’s radio show for family caregivers airs each Sunday at 3PM CDT on Newsradio 1510 WLAC.  In addition, the show is also syndicated through the Truth Network.

Peter recently earned a 2nd Dan (degree) black-belt in Hapkido.  Furthermore, Peter is also an accomplished pianist.  He recently released his new CD, Songs for the Caregiver.  

Peter and Gracie live in Nashville, TN, where he also serves and the president and co-founder of Standing With Hope.

Discussing the vast problem for caregivers

Caregiver “Identity Theft”

Peter and Gracie Rosenberger’s song, “I CAN ONLY HOLD YOU NOW!”

Jeff Foxworthy Calls The Show

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